Marriage!

My husband and I have been in a relationship for almost 6 years and have been married for 2 months. What I have noticed since we have grown in our relationship through out the years is that marriage is all about compromises. 

Something small for example, I like drama or AKA chick flicks and my husband likes action pack films. In order to compromise so we can make each other happy we take turns. I got to watch "Breaking Dawn Part II" then the next time we go to the movies we get to watch "Red Dawn". It works! Sometimes for a woman its hard to sit through a action movie and I'm sure for the men its hard to watch a sad movies, but when you love one another you truly make that little compromise and you have something to talk about at the end of the day. 

I am a stay at home mom, which mean I can get everything done around the house in my pj's. 

But I have noticed that our men do not like coming home to a mess hair wife in Pj's everyday. 

Therefore, I have done some research and back in the 50' and 60' housewife knowing that their husband was coming home from work with empty tummies and tired feet would put their hair up, wash the kids sticky hands, pick up the toys, at least make the master bed, and start preparing dinner. We all know we are not perfect but if our men come home to that smell of dinner in the oven, it gives a sense of welcome home feeling. If you are behind on dinner, or you both know you are going out for dinner that night, simply light a candle!

To add to that, also let your man go change into comfortable clothes and relax for a minute. Because I've also noticed that men need that time to unwind after a hard day at work and now they are home with their family. So give them that 10-15 minutes of unwinding time, don't smother them with questions or start complaining about things and how your day went or how stressed you are. (There is plenty of other time for that. haha, just kidding)

Try to greet him cheerfully when he gets home from work with a hug and kiss, and simply ask "how was your day".

DATE NIGHT....Very, very, important in your marriage or relationship. At least once a month, you and your husband need to go out just the two of you, even if it means go to the movies or window shopping at the mall just the two of you. This gives you and him time to talk about things without the kids getting into stuff around the house or them climbing all over you. 

What I have noticed that my husband and I spend talking about on date nights is the future. Future projects around the house, what we would love to do with our kids one day...etc. 

You and your husband need this time, this creates a strong bond and it pays off one day!

One last point I'm going to make which is a big one . Finances!  

The number one problem in marriages today, is finances. My husband and I are not perfect and we have a lot to learn in the future, but that is one thing that him and I have hardly ever fought over. 

When it comes to money, you cannot get upset with each other. You need to come together, grab a piece of paper and work things out, weather its on the dinner table and the kids are asleep or you on the couch having a glass of wine. You and your husband are playing on the same team, don't butt heads, come together and WIN this game which we so call life. 

My Sweet Sixteen 

Our Wedding September 16, 2012

Happy Marriage!

Goodnight

Brianna